Dinamika Self Esteem pada Perempuan Fatherless dalam Menjalin Relasi Romantis
Abstract
Abstract. The increase in fatherless cases in Indonesia is alarming. Fatherless also has an impact on a girl's life which will affect self-esteem while self-esteem and romantic relationships influence each other. This study aims to determine the dynamics of self-esteem in fatherless women in romantic relationships. Phenomenological method is used in this research. The data analysis technique uses descriptive phenomenology (PFD). Data collection was done by interview. All participants were female and experienced fatherless and aged 18-25 years old who were selected by purposive sampling technique. The results showed that both participants experienced increasingly negative self-perceptions after undergoing poor romantic relationships. In contrast to participants three who experienced positive self-assessment, due to factors in the quality of romantic relationships. The dynamics of self-esteem in fatherless women have a similar pattern, due to the similarity of backgrounds, namely not having a close relationship with the father. The dynamics of self-esteem are also influenced by the quality of romantic relationships, the role of maternal support and relationships with friends.
Abstrak. Peningkatan kasus fatherless atau kehilangan figur ayah di Indonesia semakin mengkhawatirkan. Fatherless juga berdampak dalam kehidupan seorang anak perempuan yang akan berpengaruh pada self-esteem sedangkan Self-esteem dan hubungan romantis saling mempengaruhi. Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengetahui dinamika self-esteem pada perempuan fatherless dalam relasi romantis. Metode fenomenologi digunakan dalam penelitian ini. Teknik analisis data menggunakan fenomenologis deskriptif (PFD). Pengambilan data dilakukan dengan wawancara. Seluruh partisipan berjenis kelamin perempuan dan mengalami fatherless dan berusia 18-25 tahun yang dipilih dengan teknik purposive sampling. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa pada kedua partisipan mengalami persepsi diri yang semakin negatif setelah menjalani relasi romatis yang buruk. Berbeda dengan partisipa tiga yang mengalami penilaian diri yang positif, dikarenakan adanya faktor pada kualitas relasi romantis. Dinamika terjadinya self-esteem pada perempuan fatherless memiliki pola yang serupa, dikarenakan adanya kesamaan latar belakang yakni tidak memiliki relasi kedekatan dengan ayah. Dinamika terjadinya self-esteem juga di pengaruhi oleh adanya faktor kualitas relasi romantis, peran dukungan ibu dan relasi dengan teman-teman.
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